Tracee Ellis Ross On Getting Married & Having Children: “Are You Making That Decision For You Or Someone Else?”

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The FASHION GAWD herself, Tracee Ellis Ross, is bold and beautiful in Givenchy on the latest cover of London’s Sunday Times Style magazine.

Check out what the 45-year-old Black-ish star shared with the publication about her famous mother Diana Ross, maturing, starting a family and more:

On her mother Diana Ross: “She was in charge of her own identity and had agency in her life, and it was all connected to the glamour and her power.”


On her big family: “We all f****** love being together,” as Tracee puts it. She still raids her mother’s wardrobe, and they all holiday together, with the troupe expanded to include in-laws, nieces and nephews. Tracee is the only single, child-free one. “We’re a large bunch and there’s only so many houses that one can usually rent, so I often end up in bed with my mom, or in the closet they put a bed in,” she says, laughing. “Everybody else, with their families, husbands, wives and children, get these bedrooms with bathrooms ensuite, and I’m sleeping in bed with my mom, which is hilarious.”

On how she is really shy under her large personality: “I was always very big into imagination, and I would dress up or talk as different characters to make people laugh. I think my big personality developed to protect myself. If you think about it — which I have had some time to do — a large personality keeps people at the same distance as a shy personality. You still get to protect yourself from others.” She says she struggled with loneliness while growing up. “I mean, I’m so close to my family and I went to every single school with my sister, including college, so I always had someone there, but that’s very different. Alone and lonely are different.”


On the idea of family and husband and a family: “I’m constantly asking myself questions, reminding myself, ‘Are you making that decision for you or someone else?’ The husband and the babies are the expectation of what’s supposed to happen at a certain point, and people fall back on, ‘Well, that’s the point of the human species, procreation.’ And I’m, like, ‘I think there are a lot of babies, isn’t that part of what’s going wrong, there’s too many?’ Some people could be working on the world being a better place, or just being happy.”

On directing one of the season finale episodes of “Black-ish”: “I’m terrified, which means I’m excited. I feel very grateful to Kenya [Barris, the Black-ish creator] for giving me the opportunity. It’s a large network show. This is not, ‘Let’s go do a little something for YouTube. Let’s direct a series for your Instagram.’ This is a real show that has a lot of people watching.”


On getting older: “Being 45 is fascinating. It’s this extraordinary journey of time passing, and getting to this place where so many of the trappings aren’t there, and yet there’s so much other rich, fertile stuff happening in my life. It’s all a choice. Which is incredibly empowering and can be extremely lonely. My work as an adult has been making friends with the loneliness, and actually coming to terms with the fact that I love it. And I now call it choiceful solitude.”

Images: Kerry Hallihan for The Sunday Times

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